Mature Love

After my grandpa passed away, my grandma liked to sleep next to me during our visits. Those few nights resembled the slumber parties I would have as a young girl – talking late into the night about whatever came to mind. On one of those occasions I asked my grandma, [...]

2019-06-25T21:45:45+00:00June 25th, 2019|

Dropping Keys

The small man Builds cages for everyone He Knows. While the sage, Who has to duck his head When the moon is low, Keeps dropping keys all night long For the Beautiful Rowdy Prisoners. Are you a builder of cages or a dropper of keys? I often think of this [...]

2019-05-03T19:54:20+00:00May 3rd, 2019|

The Mind-Body Relationship

I am often asked how I came to practice psychotherapy from a mind-body perspective. During my time in graduate school there was a minor focus on holistic approaches to mental health but it was definitely not emphasized. Mindfulness practices were also not mainstream as they were still in the process [...]

2019-03-13T18:18:13+00:00March 12th, 2019|

Life Is Not a Problem to Be Solved

“Life is not a problem to be solved, it is a mystery to be experienced.” - Rainer Maria Rilke What is the real goal of therapy? People often seek a therapist during moments of sadness, emptiness, fear, confusion and/or frustration. There may be a desperation to “fix” the uncomfortable thoughts, feelings [...]

2019-01-18T23:02:47+00:00January 18th, 2019|

Gratitude

I know it is a cliché to talk about gratitude during Thanksgiving but I am going to do it anyway. Thanksgiving is a great reminder to take a moment to acknowledge all that we have – all that is well and good. These may be simple every day things that [...]

2018-11-16T00:15:15+00:00November 16th, 2018|

Rigidity and Chaos

Daniel Siegel, M.D. often writes about the importance of navigating the “river of well-being” in order to achieve mental and emotional health. He uses the metaphor of a river, which symbolizes well-being, with two banks – one representing rigidity (imposing control) and the other chaos (out of control). Ideally, we [...]

2018-10-25T22:56:00+00:00October 25th, 2018|

Meaning Over Happiness

With anxiety and depression on the rise, I have been thinking more and more about what might be contributing to the decline of our mental and emotional health. As with any phenomenon there are multiple causes, but I would like to focus here on the difference between having meaning in [...]

2018-08-28T18:56:09+00:00August 28th, 2018|

Authenticity and Intimacy

If I only had a few words to summarize how I view my role as a therapist, I would say I am a facilitator of authenticity and intimacy. Authenticity is our ability to be our true selves, to connect to our own feelings, beliefs, values and desires. A young child [...]

2018-07-16T23:45:59+00:00July 16th, 2018|

Sometimes I Go About in Pity

“Sometimes I go about in pity for myself, and all the while, a great wind carries me across the sky.” – Ojibwe Saying I first came across this saying while watching an episode of The Sopranos, a captivating HBO series about a mob boss who has a panic attack and subsequently [...]

2018-06-07T22:26:38+00:00June 7th, 2018|

CAMFT Conference: Dr. Gabor Maté and The Myth of Normal

A couple of weeks ago I attended the California Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (CAMFT) Conference specifically to see Dr. Gabor Maté. This was my second time seeing him in person, although I have followed many of Maté’s interviews and podcasts in addition to reading his books. I find [...]

2018-05-10T22:54:51+00:00May 10th, 2018|
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