CAMFT Conference: Dr. Gabor Maté and The Myth of Normal

2018-05-10T22:54:51+00:00 May 10th, 2018|

A couple of weeks ago I attended the California Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (CAMFT) Conference specifically to see Dr. Gabor Maté. This was my second time seeing him in person, although I have followed many of Maté’s interviews and podcasts in addition to reading his books. I find [...]

I Think vs. I Feel

2018-04-12T14:30:40+00:00 April 11th, 2018|

  Several years ago, I led a codependency recovery group for women who had been in abusive relationships. Instead of the usual beginning group check-in, I decided to have the participants say only their name and how they felt in that very moment. As each individual struggled to find [...]

Clearing the Clutter

2018-05-10T22:27:00+00:00 March 13th, 2018|

Every Chinese New Year my teacher assigns Clearing Your Clutter with Feng Shui, by Karen Kingston, to bring our attention to those parts of our lives that may be disorganized, stagnant or neglected. Even though the book is feng shui-themed, one does not need to follow feng shui in order [...]

Mothers and Daughters

2018-04-12T14:28:32+00:00 February 12th, 2018|

“Probably there is nothing in human nature more resonant with charges than the flow of energy between two biologically alike bodies, one of which has lain in amniotic bliss inside the other, one of which has labored to give birth to the other. The materials are here for the [...]

Highlights of The Evolution of Psychotherapy Conference 2017

2018-01-06T00:07:39+00:00 January 5th, 2018|

The Evolution of Psychotherapy Conference is held every four years (the “Olympics” for therapists… if you will) and luckily it takes place right in my backyard. Many of the great minds and hearts in the profession travel to this conference, sharing their research, writings and overall wisdom. I always [...]

Holiday Humor

2018-01-06T22:19:38+00:00 December 7th, 2017|

One of my favorite holiday movies growing up was National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation. I am still drawn to the film around this time of year and I decided to reflect on why that may be. The most obvious reason, of course, is a fondness for classic slapstick comedy. Also, [...]

The Trauma of Infertility

2017-11-10T00:09:02+00:00 November 10th, 2017|

The path to parenthood is a deeply personal one and it requires intense vulnerability for those who decide to embark on the journey. When a couple struggles to conceive, hearing the word “infertility” can be shocking, even traumatizing. The term itself is loaded with painful feelings, negative beliefs about oneself [...]

Courage and Fear

2017-11-10T00:15:26+00:00 October 3rd, 2017|

“Courage is not the absence of fear. It is the perception that some things are more important to us than what we fear.” James Hollis, Swamplands of the Soul: New Life in Dismal Places What is more important to you than what you fear? Standing up for your principles? [...]

Common Myths About Therapy

2018-04-12T14:22:31+00:00 September 3rd, 2017|

If you have never participated in therapy, it can be intimidating to reach out and face the unknown. Often people have misconceptions about what therapy entails, leading to unrealistic expectations and unnecessary worry or fear. The following are some of those misconceptions: Myth: Therapy is About Receiving Advice Reality: [...]